Rebranding the Single Mom: Lisa McDonald

Lisa McDonald reached out to Here We Are Today to share her single mom story and give insight into how she is Rebranding the Single Mom®.

Name: Lisa McDonald
Age: 31
Occupation: 2nd Grade Teacher
Bio: I loved to get out in the city and experience all that it has to offer especially coming from upstate in New York (Rochester). I love enjoy watching my daughter learn and spending time with her.

Questions:

Tell us a little about yourself. 

I was born and raised in Rochester, NY. I was raised by grandmother. I am career switcher from social work to teaching. To be honest, I was actually inspired by Obama which made me switch to teaching. I saw him speak at the University of Virginia.

How many children do you have?

1- Ava-Kai

What has changed the most since you became a single mom? 

Everything. I have become very complacent not being social and interacting with others and I have to push myself out the house. My daughter has become my life. When we are not together, I feel frozen in time.

When you have one of those days…you know the kind I am talking about…and you have to dig down deep…what is it exactly that helps you pull through?

Wow… I have those at least once a week where I just cry to get it all out. I pray and talk with my friends and grandmother.

Who are your role models in life?

My grandmother who dedicated her life to raising me, her other grandchildren, and children.

What do you think is the biggest misconception about single mothers?

Oh, I feel like there are many. Many feel that single mothers often consist of women of color or that we don’t work, we don’t know what we want from life, nor do we have an education, as well we want “someone to save us” or the stigmatization from us not being “married mothers”.

And…ugh…what is the worst thing someone has said to you about being an unmarried parent?

Do you still communicate with the father? Is he in her life? Why are you not married? Is that your daughter?

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve received about (single) motherhood?

Take time for yourself.

What makes your heart sing?

Hearing my daughter say that “we are a family!”

What perspective is missing in the broader single mom narrative that exists in this country?

Our actual voices instead of these misconceptions that exist out there. I am single mom, with a masters from Columbia University. I am also a teacher. I was pregnant with my daughter in graduate school, but I was determined to finish. My child gives me the motivation to do all things.

And how are you #RebrandingTheSingleMom?

Staying driven. Embracing being a “single mom” and not letting it define me. I am Lisa and I have a daughter.

What is the single biggest surprise you learned about being a single mom AFTER you became one yourself?

Single mothers are driven (they want something out life).

If you want to share your single mom story – drop me a line here!