I was out to dinner with a group of friends a few weeks ago, and almost everyone at the table was a parent…which meant – no matter how hard we would try – conversations would ultimately head toward talk of our kids. One of the moms was talking about milestones and discipline and how when […]Read More ›
Parenthood and marriage are becoming two distinct things: Today 4 in 10 births are to women who aren’t married. Meet Cara Lemieux who is one of those moms that didn’t let meeting the fact that she hasn't met the right person stop her from becoming a parent.
Cara Lemieux had her first child at age 30; she was single and the pregnancy unplanned. But after working “to rebrand the single mom in my head and in the world around me,” she realized she loved motherhood. Seven years later, she decided to do it again, and once more she’s doing it on her own.
Cara Lemieux is up before her six-and-a-half-year-old daughter, getting in a few work e-mails and maybe a quick workout. Then it’s breakfast, getting her daughter off to school, and tucking herself into her home office, where she works as a senior communications strategist.
By 8:45 a.m., Cara Lemieux has gotten up, made coffee, read and sent a few e-mails, and started writing or editing, all before getting her daughter up and dressed, fed, and out the door. When six-year-old Ellie is on the bus to school, Lemieux has hit the pavement—literally—getting in a morning run or a walk with her neighbor before she tucks herself into her home office for the day.
My daughter and I were interviewed for an AllState series about firsts, and I shared our experience buying our first home and my thoughts on letting go of the life I thought that I should have so that I could fall in love with the life that I do have.
For the most part, they're bone-tired of the pervasive myth that new parenthood represents a restorative time with a delightful newborn. But it's more than merely annoying: This portrayal of new parenthood creates an escape hatch on doing anything to meaningfully support new parents in America.
One afternoon when I was doing research on gender and income inequality, I came across the name Cara Lemieux, digital media strategist for The Shriver Report–“a nonpartisan initiative that raises awareness, ignites conversations and inspires impact around the deﬁning issues and fundamental changes facing modern women and their families.”
I am very close to turning 35. I can see it, just over there on the horizon, a little less than a month away. You know, that age when you go from seemingly fabulously fertile to barren, overnight. Biological clock aside, 35 is one of those milestone ages when you find yourself doing some sort of life assessment.
Cara Lemieux, managing editor of the ShriverReport, wishes someone would make dinner every night so that she can give her daughter a bath without stressing about dinner and the mess that needs to be cleaned up after. “When you are a single parent, all work is linear, so there is no dividing and conquering the management of the house,” discloses Lemieux.
Single moms are no more the picture that is painted of them in the media, than today's wives are a reflection of what was depicted of them in the 1950s. But changing that external image, in my opinion, starts by changing the internal dialogue.
When I got pregnant, I knew very early on that my child was going to be raised in a single-mother household. As most of you may know, statistics show that children raised by single mothers (rich or poor, educated or not) typically have lower grades and are at higher risk of becoming pregnant at an early age, doing drugs and all of the other things we don't want our children doing.
As a single parent to a toddler, there are times when I have found myself steering clear of certain activities for either emotional or logistical reasons, or both. And I must admit that a recent weekend trip to Walt Disney World in Orlando, Fla., almost fell into that category, until I remembered that Disney World is one of the most child-friendly places on earth, and navigating it would not be much different than navigating my everyday life.
As a single mom with a blog, and what some have referred to as a bold personality, I am used to being asked a lot of questions that border on brash. Everything from the older woman in the elevator looking at her watch… and then looking at my toddler…and then me, and saying, “My, my, my…isn’t coming home from preschool at 5:30 a mighty long day for such a little girl?” to the well-intentioned yet always insulting, “Why are you still single?!?”
I recently wrapped up lecturing to my first college class, which: A) Sounds really funny to say B) Is something I have always wanted to do, mainly because I was what you would call – reluctant to enter the “real” world. And since graduating in 2002…I’ve really never stopped trying to find my way back to college.
Q: Is the job you have now the same one you had before kids? If not, how and why did you change directions? A: My job is not the same as it was before I had children…which is sometimes really hard for me to accept. There are two main reasons that I left broadcast news and headed in the direction of digital media.
Originally posted on Lifetime Moms 8.23.12 You might be wondering why the hell I took a photo of myself in this state of undress, and in order to answer that question for you, I need to set the scene of my life. I am 32-years-old and single; I have a 21-month-old toddler, who was breech […]Read More ›
After a less than spectacular week at work, I headed out to my parents house and I sent one of my closest friends a text that said: Pizza, beach and kids for dinner? When she responded with a resounding YES, I thought to myself, With four kids under 4, and two adults, pizza, sand and […]Read More ›
I recently had lunch with a close friend of mine that I worked with very closely up until I was about 6 months pregnant, I then moved over to another department, and now we are once again working closely together on a temporary project. We sat down to lunch after a very hectic morning and […]Read More ›
And tragedy doesn’t feel the same either. As most of you know I am a producer in network news, and I have been for longer than I care to admit…although I like to attribute the crazy hours and stressful work environment to this deepening line between my eyes. Not my fault I need Botox – […]Read More ›
Originally posted on Lifetime Moms 5.12.12 Growing up, I lost count with how many times I heard my mom say, “Okay…just you wait…You’ll understand when you are a mother…” And I also lost count of how many times I slammed the door and stomped off, screaming, “GOOOOOOHHHD-UHH. You are sooo, annoying-uhh!!!!! Flash-forward about 2 decades, […]Read More ›
Ya know, much has been written about the trials of motherhood. And I will certainly not dispute the exhaustion that comes from the repetition, and the managing, and the worrying, and the repetition, and the repeating of yourself. And as much as that is really a HUGE part of this process, lately it has taken […]Read More ›
A very good friend of mine from college used to say in a very prophetic manner, “Ah, Car…the old dreams were good dreams. I’m sad they didn’t work out, but I’m glad I had them.” In order to get the full affect, you must imagine (btw…what is the audio version of visualize? Audiolize? Anyone? anyway) […]Read More ›
So I was giving Ellie a bath tonight and I began to crave cookies. Then I began to try to figure out how I could manage to get some cookies into my apartment, without taking Ellie out in the rain, after her bath to get some. Please note, I am aware that the attempt to […]Read More ›
If any of you have been around Ellie lately, you may have picked up on her affinity for El-ro…or as he is more commonly known – Elmo. I fear, that I may be solely responsible for this obsession because I introduced her to Elmo when she was about 6 months old, after having him on […]Read More ›